I was
heading to the store recently and thinking about money, which is not uncommon
for me. My thoughts ended up focusing on how with my tax refund money and my
incentive payment - the only big cash boosts that I get in a year - it felt
like they hadn't done anything for me.
That is not
a fair statement. The bulk of it went toward replacing the stove. That is
something that benefits me. While I was generally pretty pleased with how well
we managed without a stove, it is a lot easier having one. It's a good model
and should last a while. It's not like it was a waste or anything, but stoves
aren't cheap. Also, we finally got the space converted from drop-in to slide-in
(this gives a lot more options and makes future work much easier, so that's
valuable) and that cost extra money.
That didn't
take everything, but it was the largest part. I did get some new clothes (which
were really needed) but mainly I spent it to help other people, some household
members, some not.
I love
helping people, so when I have the chance I want to do it, but the phrase that
hit me as I slid into the car was "There's nothing left for me."
I do that.
Sometimes I do that with my time and strength, though I am improving there. Sometimes
I do it with money.
It sounds
whiny - which I hate - but if that is something that I do to myself, and if it
is a problem, then I need to fix it. I can't expect anyone else to stop me.
I wasn't
sure how to go about it, except that I should probably stop and ask myself what
I need on a regular basis. Trying that didn't really feel like it was working,
except maybe for the nap I took Saturday afternoon, but I had a moment of
clarity in the shower. I need to replace my mattress.
Asking
wasn't working because I wasn't listening. I had been thinking about getting a
new mattress. Mine is caved in, and I think that partially explains why my
shoulders and neck hurt so much. I do think fasciitis plays a role too, and I
need to look at remedies for that, but I also totally need to replace the
mattress.
I had been
thinking about that and the bed, because the foot board is falling off the bed,
and it's pretty old too. However, the bed is still holding its shape; the
mattress isn't. I had ruled that out as a possibility currently, because
mattresses aren't cheap, but I need it and I can make it work. Money will be
tight; but it already is. Apparently my most pressing need is not to hurt so
much.
This entire
process has been a pattern lately. I think that I don't know what to do, but
actually the idea was there, and I was discounting it because it didn't seem
possible or practical. Later I realize that it can be done, if for no other
reason than that it needs to be done, therefore it must be possible.
So it looks
like a good skill for me might be not dismissing the right answer so quickly.
Maybe it's okay. If I still get there reasonably quickly, and am more sure
because the idea didn't go away after being dismissed, maybe that's enough.
Anyway,
that's where I'm at. I don't know that it's terribly significant, but my
moments of clarity frequently come during or right after my shower.
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