While I do still have things to say about the state
of the world, I have been needing to get back to personal writing, and maybe
today is the right time. I have some stories with some hardship, but also there
were people who were good to me, and maybe that makes these stories good for
this time. After all, for as much as ordinary people can be horrible, they can
be good too, and they often are.
About a month ago I had a doctor's appointment. I
had rescheduled twice due to financial concerns, and I knew I just needed to
get it over with. The rescheduled time happened to be while my younger sisters
were out of town, so leaving Mom alone was a worry. My older sister was going
to pick her up and have her hang out for a while there.
She was a little late (and didn't even offer me a
ride to the bus stop or a MAX station or anything), but I made the bus that I
needed to and was not going to be late.
I felt good about that. I also felt good because I
had been getting more patient with Mom. I had been able to field her questions
more gently. I wasn't actually getting her to believe we were at home, but
there hadn't been any really bad moments for a few days. Yes, there were
concerns about paying for this appointment and concerns about being out of insulin,
but it still kind of felt like I was handling my life better.
Then I got to the doctors office and found out I was
a day late.
Against all odds, there was an open slot an hour
later, and they could get me in. I got that set up, then went to the bathroom
and spent a few moments crying and hating myself. I wasn't getting better! I
was just a stupid bonehead who couldn't get anything right! I didn't even know
what day it was!
Maybe it was the strain of that day, or having Julie
and Maria gone, or something about the time at Misty's apartment, but that
night Mom was really persistent about asking to go home, and then she asked
about her church calling - from which she had been released, at my request,
because I had been doing it - and then there were bruised feelings again, and
neither of us handled it well. And then she forgot it, which is the one good
thing about this disease.
That was a hard day, but things happened that needed
to happen. I got some more insulin samples to keep me going a bit longer, and
my doctor recommended an alternative that is more affordable. It involves going
to Wal-Mart, because they are the only ones who carry it, so there goes my last
vestige of pride in social consciousness there, but I always understood that there
were people needed to go there. Now I am one of them.
The good part is that people were helpful. The
office manager was so kind. She saw how on the edge I was, and talked me down.
I mean, I still needed to cry, but some kindness can really help. My medication
will be about $100 a month instead of $900. I'll take that.
And I was not better with Mom that night, but I was
the next day. I am spotting new things that give me ideas for how to help.
There are things I can't fix, so there are always adjustments to be made. That
will keep happening. I will keep getting new blank slates with her, and if
that's less than ideal, there are ways in which it helps.
So I'm pretty reluctant to congratulate myself on
getting better now, but I am at least not getting worse.
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