Wednesday, September 29, 2021

Values

One of the other things that people had fun criticizing about Marie Kondo is that she opened up an online store. That hypocrite! Make us get rid of our things so we can buy yours!

Except -- once more for everyone in the back -- her philosophy is not about minimalism and not having anything, but having things that make you happy to see and use, which she most commonly refers to as sparking joy.

Her taste may be completely different from yours, but if your tastes are similar, her store is where you can find some items. 

I remember going to the store and looking when it was first announced. I noticed that she really seems to like brass -- she mentions the way the appearance changes over time, though I suspect there are other tactile qualities as well -- and tends toward items made by craftspeople, not automation.

They also tend to be expensive, possibly out of reach for some. 

Have you ever priced handmade quilts? They are expensive. They also require hours and hours of stitching. The amount of time put into it probably means that even at the price that seems expensive, the cost of labor and materials means that the maker did it for a wage you wouldn't accept. For someone who loves quilting, they may accept that not having their time fully valued, but will still feel murderous at you offering them $20.

They are not my thing anyway, but I could not afford a handmade quilt. 

Money is not the only way to get them. Sometimes you have a grandmother who makes every grandchild one, or maybe you can make your own, or you buy something from an assembly line but maybe you still like the colors... ideally, you are able to like the things you have, even if you don't have everything you like.

Taking the time to listen to yourself to understand what you like and don't like is valuable for that.

Throwing out 30 bags of trash doesn't happen from getting what you really like.

Not having anything that really feels right for you, however, might lead you to buy additional things. Looking for the one thing that will make it all feel like enough could take thirty bags.

Trying to buy what other people say you should have is also likely to end up giving you thirty large trash bags worth of something.

It doesn't mean it would be trash to everyone, but that is not the point. 

What will feel valuable to you?

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